Sohbat (sex) ka tarika

Sohbat ka tarika
Important Ahadees Related to Nikah : 

Hazrat Ibne Abbas Radiallaho Anhu Se Riwayat He Ke
Huzoor Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya,
Gawaho Ke Bagair Nikah Karnewali Aurate Jaaniya ( Zina Karnewali ) Hain. 
[ Tirmizi Sharif, Jild : 1, Safa :
563, Hadees No. 1095, Baab No. 751 ]

Huzoor Sayyadna Gause Aazam Shaikh Abdul Qadir Jilani Radiallahu Anhu Farmate Hai, Nikah Jumerat
( Thursday ) Ya Jumma ( Friday ) Ko Karna Must'hab He Aur Subah Ki Bajaye Sham Ke Waqt Nikah Behtar
Karna Hain.
[ Gunyatuttalebin, Baab No. 5, Safa : 115 ]

Jis Kisine Sohbat Ki Bate Logo Me Bayan Ki Uski Misal Aisi He Jaise Shaitan Aurat Shaitan Mard Se Mile Aur Logo Ke Samne Hi Khule Aam Sohbat Karne Lage.
[ Abu Dawood, Jild : 2, Hadees No. 407, Safa : 155,baab No. 127)

Aaqa Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya, Allah Ki Laanat Bad Nigahi Karnewale Par Aur Jiski
Taraf Bad Nigahi Ki Jaye.
[ Bayhaqi Sharif, Mishkat Sharif, Jild : 2, Safa : 77 ]

Huzoor Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya...
"Tum me se jo koi apni Biwi ke pas jaye to Parda kar le aur Gadhe ki tarah na shuru ho jaye"
(Ibne Maja, Jild 1, Safa 538, Hadees no 1990, Bab no 616)

Ummulmomenin Hazrat Aayesha Siddiqa Radiallahu Anha se Riwayat he ki Huzoor Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya...
"Jo Mard apni biwi ka hath usko behlane ke liye pakadta he, Allah ta'ala uske liye 1 neki likh deta he,
Jab mard pyar se Aurat ke gale me hath dalta he uske haq me 10 nekiya likhi jati he,
Aur jab Aurat se Sohbat karta he to Duniya aur jo kuch usme he un subse behtar ho jata he"
(Gunyatuttalebin Safa 113)

Sohbat se pehle khud bechain na ho jaye apne aap par pura itminan rakhe jaldbaji na kare pehle biwi se Pyar Muhabbat ki batchit kare fir bos wa kinar (Kiss) wagaira se usko razi kare aur isi duran dil hi dil me ye dua padhe:
"Bismillahil Aliyul Azime Allaho Akbar Allaho Akbar"
Tarjuma: "Allah ke nam se Jo bujurg wa Bartar ajmatwala he. Allah bahut bada he. Allah bahut bada he.
iske bad jab mard,Aurat, Sohbat ka irada kar le to kapade jism se alag karne se pehle ek martaba "Surah ikhlas" Padhe
"Kul huwallaho Ahad. Allahussamad. Lam-ya-lid. Walam yoolad walam ya kullahu kufuwan ahad."
Surah ikhlas padhne ke bad ye dua padhe
"Bismillahi Allahumma jannib nash shaitana wa janne bish shaitana ma rajak tana."
Tarjuma: "Allah ke nam se. Ae Allah door kar humse shaitan mardud ko aur door kar shaitan mardud ko us Aulad se jo tu hume ata karega"
(Bukhari sharif, Jild 3, Safa 473)

Hazrat ibne Abbas Radiallahu Anhu se Riwayat he ke Huzoor Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya...
"Jo shaks is dua ko Sohbat ke waqt padhega (Dua wahi jo upar likhi he) to Allah us padhnewale ko agar Aulad ata farmaye to us Aulad ko Shaitan kabhi bhi nuksan na pahuncha sakega"
(Bukhari sharif Jild 3,Safa 85, Tirmizi sharif, Jild 1, Safa 557)

Huzoor Gause Aazam Saiyedna Shaikh Abdul Qadir Jilani wa Hazrat Muhkkike islam shaikh Abdul haq mohoddas dahalwi aur Aala hazrat imam Ahmad Raza Khan irshad farmate he
"Agar koi shaks sohbat ke waqt dua na padhe to us shaks ki sharmgah se shaitan lipat jata he aur us mard ke sath shaitan bhi us Aurat se sohbat karne lagta he. Aur jo aulad paida hoti he woh na farman,buri aadatwali,Begairat,Bad-deen hoti he. Shaitan ki is dakhl andaji ki wajahse Aulad me Tabahkari aa jati he"
(Gunyatuttalebin Safa 116, Fatwa-E-Razviya, Jild 9, Safa 48)

Inzal (Mani nikalte waqt) ki Dua :
Jis waqt inzal ho yani mard ki Mani uske Uzoo-E-Tanasul se nikal kar Aurat ki Sharmgah me dakhil hone lage us waqt dil hi dilme ye dua padhe:
"Allahumma-La-Taja'al Lish Shaitane Fi-M-Razkatni Nasi-ba"
Tarjuma: "Aye Allah shaitan ke liye hissa na bana usme Jo(Aulad) tu hume ata kare"
(Hisne Hasin Safa 165, Fatwa-E-Razviya Jild 9, Safa 161)

NIKAH KE TA'ALLUK SE CHAND HADEES...
निकाह दरहकीकत एक ऐसा ताल्लुक हैं जो औरत मर्द के दरम्यान एक पाकदामन रिश्ता हैं जो मरने के बाद भी ज़िन्दा रहता हैं बल्कि निकाह हैं ही इसलिये के लोगो के दरम्यान मोहब्बत कायम रह सके| जैसा के नबी सल्लललाहो अलेहे वसल्लम ने फ़रमाया-
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– (इब्ने माजा)

» हदीसे नबवी से साबित हैं के निकाह औरत मर्द के साथ-साथ दरअसल दो खानदान का भी रिश्ता होता हैं जो निकाह के बाद कायम होता हैं|इसका अव्वल तो ये फ़ायदा होता हैं के अगर एक मर्द और औरत की निकाह से पहले मोहब्बत मे हो तो गुनाह के इमकान हैं लेकिन अगर उनका निकाह कर दिया जाये तो गुनाह का इमकान नही रहता. दूसरे उनकी मोहब्बत हमेशा के लिये निकाह मे तबदील हो जाती हैं जो जायज़ हैं साथ ही दो अलग-अलग खानदान आपस मे एक-दूसरे से वाकिफ़ होते हैं और एक नया रिश्ता कायम होता हैं|मोहब्बत के साथ-साथ निकाह नफ़्स इन्सानी के सुकुन का भी ज़रिय हैं जिससे इन्सान सुकुन और फ़ायदा हासिल करता हैं|

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– (सूरह रूम सूरह नं 30 आयत नं 21)

10 tips for a happy married life -
based on Qu'ran and hadith:-
We have not seen anything that creates LoVe between two individuals such as nikah".

01 - FEAR ALLAH :- It was the noble practice of Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) to make the spouses aware of the fear of ALLAH, before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Al Nisa 14, Al Ahzab 69, Aali imran 101).

02 - NEVER BE ANGRY AT THE SAME TIME :- Anger is d root cause for all marital disputes. So "Control your anger".

03 - IF ONE HAS WIN AN ARGUMENT, LET IT BE THE OTHER:- Nabi e kareem (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said, "Whoever discards an argument despite being correct shall earn a palace in the center of Jannah" (Mishkat pg.412).

04 - IF U HAVE to CRITICIZE, DO IT LOVINGLY:- Nabi sallallahu alaihi wa sallam Said, "A Mu'min is a mirror for a Mu'min" (Abu Dawood vol 2, pg 325 imdadiya) (Advice with Dignity & Silently).

05 - NEVER SHOUT AT EACH OTHER UNLESS THE HOUSE IS ON FIRE:- Luqman alaihissalam while offering advice to his son Said, "And lower your voice for verily d most disliked voice is that of a donkey" (Surah luqman19).

06 - NEVER BRING UP MISTAKES OF THE PAST :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said, "Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceals his faults on the day of Qayam'ah".

07. NEGLECT THE WHOLE WORLD RATHER THAN YOUR MARRIAGE PARTNER :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Confirmed d advice of Salman (رضي الله عنه) for neglecting his wife, "verily there is a right of your wife over you"(Nasai 2391).

08 - NEVER SLEEP WITH AN ARGUMENT UNSETTLED:- Hazrat Abu Bakar (رضي الله عنه) resolved his dispute with his wife over feeding the guest before going to bed (Bukhari 602).

09 - AT LEAST, ONCE EVERY DAY, EXPRESS YOUR GRATITUDE TO YOUR PARTNER :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم)
Said, "Whoever doesn't show gratitude to the people has not shown gratitude to ALLAH"(Abu dawud pg. 662).

10 - WHEN U HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG, BE READY TO ADMIT IT AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS:- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said,"All d son of Adam commit error. And d best of those are those who seek forgiveness" (Tirmidhi 2499).

There are many ways of increasing love between the couple, consider the following these 10 points to maintain a happy marriage & control d instincts of dispute...